To Be Appreciated

Deeply ingrained in human nature is the intense yearning to be appreciated. As Mother Teresa said, “There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.”

To be appreciated feels like our birthright, which is probably why we have high expectations. Feeling unappreciated tops the list of universal human complaints. We’ve all heard others lament, “They just don’t appreciate me!” Perhaps we may have even joined in!

The longing for appreciation goes beyond receiving a thank you for a nice dinner or for doing someone a favor. What we really want is for another to recognize our quality, our worth and the contribution we make. It’s about being seen, valued and recognized.

Showing appreciation has become socialized. It’s common to show appreciation through giving material gifts and for it to be focused on an officially designated day. Why can’t every day be Mother’s Day? What happens the rest of the time? How often do we take the time to express the appreciation in our hearts for the unique qualities, special gifts and inner brilliance of others?

It’s due to more than forgetfulness, however. Basically, appreciation isn’t very easy. To truly express our deep appreciation for another opens us beyond our comfort zone and leaves us vulnerable. No wonder a gift is the preferred route!

Never underestimate the power of appreciation. Through acknowledging your gratitude for another, there’s an increase in the value to them and to yourself – appreciation appreciates! Voltaire encapsulated it. “Appreciation is a wonderful thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.”

In the Namaste spirit bow to those in whom you recognize the divine spirit by the divine spirit in you and remember the words of Rumi, “to praise the sun is to praise your own eyes.”